HOW TO DEAL WITH PRESSURES

Pressures are a normal part of life. And entering middle school and becoming a teenager brings a whole batch of new pressures. What really matters, though, is not how much pressure you have, but how well you keep it all in perspective and deal with it. Here are some positive, healthful ways of dealing with pressures.

* Take time out.
* Do something else for a while - exercise, read, see a movie, listen to music.
* Talk to someone - friends, parents, a teacher or counselor.
* Ask for help.
* Take a fresh look; brainstorm new solutions.
* Don't be overly critical of yourself; give yourself a break.
* Think of your past accomplishments.
* Think about your good qualities.
* Learn your limits; don't take on more than you can handle.
* Put things in perspective; pressures usually pass.
* Write in a journal.
* Use your sense of humor.
 "Dealing with Pressures" The Video

This video helps young adolescents:

* Â Become more aware of the kinds of pressures they live with.

* Â Recognize how those pressures affect the way they feel and the kinds of choices they make.

* Â Understand how pressure can make them lose perspective.

* Â Learn some good ways to deal with pressures.

see story synopsis . . . Â Â "Big Changes, Big Choices" the 12-part series

In Big Changes, Big Choices comedian/teen counselor Michael Pritchard helps young adolescents discover that they have the power and the responsibility to make the right choices for themselves. more. . .

For more information about individual videos in this 12-part series, click on the title below.

 *  The Three Rs of Growing Up *  You and Your Values * Enhancing Self-Esteem *  Setting & Achieving Goals * Dealing With Pressures * Handling Emotions * Preventing Conflicts & Violence *  Saying No to Alcohol & Other Drugs * Speaking of Sex * Friendship * Getting Along With Parents * Respecting Others

If your school or organization does not have these videos, you can purchase them from Live Wire Media, or request them from your local library.

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DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

If you are using the video, ask the first two questions before viewing.
1. What pressures are you under?
2. Is all pressure bad, or can some pressures be good?
Name some good pressures. Why are those good?
Name some bad pressures. Why are those bad?
How do you tell the difference between good and bad pressures?
3. In what ways are the pressures on you changing as you get older?
4. What are the most serious pressures you are feeling?
5. Are most of the pressures you feel internal pressures or external pressures? What's the difference?
6. Can you think of a time when you felt like you were getting a lot of pressure from others, but it turned out that you were actually putting that pressure on yourself?
7. Do you ever put so much pressure on yourself that it makes it hard to enjoy what you're doing?
8. Do you ever put unfair pressure on yourself because you can't say "no" to people? Is that good? How could you change that?
9. Several of the kids in the video complained that their parents compare them to other kids. Does that ever happen to you? How do you feel about that? What are some good ways of dealing with it?
10. Do you ever put pressure on yourself by comparing yourself with others? Is that good?
11. What's the worst way you've ever dealt with a pressure? How could you have handled it better?
12. What's the best way you've ever dealt with a pressure? What did you learn from that?
13. Do you think pressure sometimes affects the way you make choices? In what way?
14. How do you know when pressure is getting to be too much?
15. When you're having a big problem do you always try to work it out on your own or do you ever reach out for help? Why? When might it be best to reach out for help?
16. Does pressure sometimes make you lose perspective? (It may help to have a discussion here about perspective) How does losing perspective affect the choices you make?
17. Did anybody in this video say anything you disagree with? How would you answer that person?
18. What was most meaningful to you in this video?