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Premarital counseling for the bride and groom
What is fidelity?
What are conjugal rights?
What are his rights?
What are her rights?

Fidelity and conjugal rights are essential.
What may become a problem if not taken seriously?
How do you manage this problem?
1. Relationship sabotage.
2. Work sabotage.
3. Remuneration sabotage.
4. Differences in language.
5. Climate.
6. Dress.
7. Food.
8. Living conditions
9. Living habits.
10. Culture.
11. Social customs.

What is the name of the bride to be?
What is the name of the groom to be?
What is the date of birth?
What are their parents’ names?
What is their religion?
How do we verify this information?
Are these facts mentioned clearly?
Have these facts been shown to both the bride and groom to be?
Will anyone object to this relationship?
Do they have a genuine right?
What are the responses to these questions of the bride and groom to be?

What is good human character?
What is good human behavior?
What is your father’s name?
What is your mother’s name?
Where and when were they born?
Do you have a spouse?
Did you have a spouse?
What do you understand by spouse?
Who will provide food, clothing, transportation, health care, and other needs during this duration?
What makes a relationship healthy?
How do I know that I have a healthy relationship with someone?
What church do you go to? What religion are you?
Do you have any disabilities?
When was the last time you used illegal drugs?
Do you drink alcoholic beverages?
What is your race?
What is your height? What is your weight?
What is your native language?
How many children do you have?
How do you define a family?
What is good behavior in the family, in the building, on the road, in a vehicle, inside an office, inside a class room, and outside the classroom?
How long does each session last?
How much does bridal counseling cost?
Who pays for the phone calls?
How can bridal counseling help me?
When’s the best time to begin bridal counseling?
Do you have a pre-set agenda for each session?
What is expected of me?
How many sessions do most brides have?
Do you counsel grooms?
Do you work with mothers-of-the-bride or groom? Fathers?
I've got cold feet. Can you tell me whether or not I should go through with the wedding?
My wedding got called off. Can you help me?
I have a few more quick questions for you. How do I contact you?
How do I begin bridal counseling?

The average marriageable age of the female has shot up from 21 to 28 years. As far as the males, the age of marriage has gone up to 32 years from 24 years in normal times, reveals the study.

How long does each session last?
Sessions are 50 minutes.

How much does bridal counseling cost?
The fee for each session of bridal counseling is $125.

Who pays for the phone calls?

How can bridal counseling help me?
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Stressed? Anxious? Sad? Angry and short-tempered? More afraid of getting married than you thought you'd be? Do you lie awake at night worrying – about everything? Do you feel like you can't talk to anybody about how you're feeling – because they only want to tell you how happy you should be feeling? Then you can benefit from bridal counseling. Your weekly counseling session is your time to focus on the complex cocktail of emotions your feeling – to sort through your feelings, understand them, learn how to work through them, and grow from them. And, since I’m not “in” your world, I don’t get upset when you say, “I’m not completely happy during my engagement,” the way your family, friends, and fiance may. In fact, I expect to hear that you’re not completely happy, and I’ll help you understand why and help you get happier!

When’s the best time to begin bridal counseling?

The earlier in your engagement, the better. Why? Because after bridal counseling you’ll be much better equipped to handle the complex and contradictory emotions that naturally arise during most engagements. I’ve had brides begin counseling the day after he pops the question, but most begin between two and six months after they get engaged.

Do you have a pre-set agenda for each session?

No. Your counseling sessions are all about you, your emotions, and your specific situation. This is your time to talk about whatever you need to explore and understand. I have no pre-set agenda for our work together; every counseling experience is unique and tailored to each bride’s individual needs.

What is expected of me?

In addition to making yourself available for our weekly sessions, I occasionally give brides “homework” assignments and exercises to complete between sessions, requiring no more than 30 minutes of your time.

How many sessions do most brides have?

The majority of brides have four to six sessions of bridal counseling, although some continue their sessions throughout their engagements and into their first months of marriage. You can also try bridal counseling for just one session to see if it's helpful for you.

Do you counsel grooms?

Yes. While the majority of my clients are brides, I work with grooms, too. Truth be told, though: grooms generally struggle on their own for way too long, calling me about 2 weeks before the wedding, when they're under extraordinary stress and pressure, and having a tough time thinking clearly. So, guys: pick up the phone today.

Do you work with mothers-of-the-bride or groom? Fathers?

Yes. Parents of the bride or groom often experience unexpectedly strong emotions during their children’s engagements and have nowhere to turn to process them. Like brides-to-be, parents also feel pressure to feel only happy. When in reality, they experience deep feelings of loss and sadness around watching their son or daughter move on in their lives. This sadness may get channeled into anger at the fiancé/e, anger at the son/daughter, or obsession with the wedding itself. Parents often pull away from the child who is about to marry, creating artificial distance between them. Does this sound like you? If so, I can help you sort through your feelings of loss, grief, anger, anxiety, or fear, so that you, too, can let go of your child in a healthy way -- maintaining a healthy closeness with your child while creating a healthy distance from her at the same time.

I’ve got cold feet. Can you tell me whether or not I should go through with the wedding? No. That’s not my place or my purpose as a bridal counselor to tell anyone whether or not to walk down the aisle. I can, however, try to help you make the best decision you can. In our sessions together, we’ll work to determine if you have cold feet because an issue of yours (that we can work through), an issue of his (and then figure out if you want to live with it), or an issue that is a deal-breaker (and I’ll support you as you call it off). In fact, the main focus of more than half of the brides and grooms that I work with is helping them to unearth the central cause of their cold feet, and then helping them make the best decision for their own individual happiness.

My wedding got called off. Can you help me?

Yes. I counsel what Rachel Safier, author of There Goes The Bride, calls “almost brides” frequently, helping them process and grieve the endings of their “almost marriages,” understand what went on, how they let themselves almost get married to the wrong person, and move on. If you called it off, you’ll likely go through the whole range of emotions from relief to guilt to grief to regret to joy to fear to elation and back again. And if your wedding was called off on you, you may experience difficult feelings of grief, anger, humiliation, disorientation and more. It’s important to feel and work through all of these feelings after a wedding is called off. Here’s what one Laura, an “almost bride” I worked with, said about her Emotionally Engaged counseling experience:

"When my fiance called off our wedding, I just wanted to be over the pain and past it all. By working with Allison through all the sadness, humiliation, anger at him and his family, and fear about the future, I see how important it was for me to feel the pain, to experience all the other feelings that came along with it, and most importantly, learn from it all. The experience was a gift in disguise -- a journey of self-discovery.



I have a few more quick questions for you. How do I contact you?

How do I begin bridal counseling?



What is your name?
What is your real, birth name?
Where and when were you born?
What is your date of birth?
Where did you go to high school?
Where did you go to college?
What's your father's name?
What's your mother's birth name?
Where were they both born?
What is a good character?
What is your mailing address?
What is your Email address?
Are you a male or a female?
What has been your mailing address from the time of your birth until now?
Which language do you use with your parents, relatives, and teachers?
Which language should you use with parents, relatives, and teachers?
What's your political affiliation?
How important is religion?
How long have you been engaged?
Where do you live?
What time zone are you in?
When is your wedding? (DD/MM/YYYY)
How long have you been engaged?
What is your fiance's name?
What would you like me to know about you before we talk?
When are you available?

Relationship Counseling
    This is in context of human relationships.
    What are appropriate relationships?
    What relationships are inappropriate?

    Global
Dr. Qureshi's Nikkah Counseling.

Q) What is your name?
Q) What is your real, birth name?
Q) Where and when were you born?
Q) Where did you go to high school?
Q) Where did you go to college?
Q) What's your political affiliation?
Q) How important is religion?
Q) Nikkah/Nikkahnama and marriage certificate - What's the difference?
Q) What is fidelity?
Q) What are conjugal rights?
Q) What is Talaq?
Q) Talaq and Divorce - What's the difference?
Q) What is Mehr?
Q) What is the population of the world today?
Q) Do we know exactly how many people live in the world today?
Today the population of the world is more than six billion.
Q) What is the total population of all of North America?
The population of North America is Less than 600 million.
Conspiracies, Politically motivated Criminal wrong doing.
Q) What is RAW?
    Raw is a loosely knit Hindu business coterie with overseas implications. Raw has an intelligence network. Raw places Ambassadors, Governors, Chief Justice, Member Parliament, Chief Secretaries, Head of the Police, Chief ministers, even the Prime minister and President. Raw needs dunderheads who are going to be rubber stamps for Raw.
While handling such cases, the following questions need to be answered.
Q) Is there a Nikkahnama?
Q) Did they see a counselor who is a Muslim?
Q) Did they see a counselor who knows what Nikkahnama is?
Q) Did they see a Non-Muslim counselor who knows what Nikkahnama is?
Q) Is the counselor fully trained in handling such cases?
Q) Do you have Muslim counselors?
Q) Do you need to get them from abroad?
Q) Is the counselor fully experienced to overcome, or at least have the courage to report, sabotage that has been done in the process of counseling?
Q) Does the counselor know what fidelity is?
Q) Does the counselor know what conjugal rights are?
Q) Does counselor know the difference between a Nikkahnama and marriage certificate?
Q) Under which scenarios is the legal concept of Talaq applicable?
Q) How are Talaq proceedings different from divorce proceedings?
Q) Why is Talaq rare?
Q) Under what scenarios is the legal concept of divorce applicable?
Q) Under what scenarios is the legal concept of criminal wrongdoing applicable?
Q) In this scenario, which legal concept is applicable and why?

Is there a difference between premarital care and pre pregnancy-care?
Yes, there is. Premarital care usually includes relationship counseling.
Premarital care includes counseling about fidelity, conjugal rights, good character, good behavior, fairly documenting the relationship and profile with verification and witnesses.
Premarital care should be followed immediately by pre-pregnancy care.

Q) Is this my responsibility to make you understand?
Q) What did you understand?
Q) Why do I need to teach you this?
Q) Why didn't you get these skills and knowledge before getting hired?
Dr. Qureshi's Nikkah Counseling.
الدكتور قريشي الإستشارة العقاد.

Nikkah, Akad
العقاد

Q: What is the difference between Nikkahnama, Akad, and a marriage certificate document?

There are some incompetent, ignorant people who do not know the difference between a marriage certificate document, Nikkahnama, and Akad. Can concepts of divorce be applicable to Nikkahnama or Akad?
No.

Q: What are the issues you need to discuss before getting Nikkahnama or marriage certificate document?

Q: What problems may come up after Nikkahnama or marriage certificate document?
Here are important guidelines.

There are some incompetent, ignorant people who do not know the difference between a marriage certificate document, Nikkahnama, and Akad. Can concepts of divorce be applicable to Nikkahnama or Akad?
No.

Q: Who are the political cults or parties whose members are involved in this type of harms?
Indian National conference, Indian Congress, U.S. Republicans, U.S. Democrats.
Few European as well.

Q: What are the solutions remedies if it is due to conspiracies or sabotage?
Punishment of saboteurs and conspirators is the best option. Remedies to the victims: In some regions of world if you don't show affiliation to a specific political cult or clout, or oppose them, they do relationship conspiracy, sabotage and harms.

Q: How could this have been prevented?
Awareness of use of these techniques and tricks from people in the administration and political cults or parties. Punishment of saboteurs.
There are some forms circulated by you.
Some have been attributed to the federal administration, others to city, county, and state administrations. The design of the questions is wrong, particularly the questions with yes or no answers.
There are many such examples.

This should be made mandatory; add a statement if required. For example:
A federal form mentions that
I am married and we file federal taxes jointly.
Yes or No?
Let's examine this question.
If yes, where is the marriage certificate?
I don't have a marriage certificate.
If no, a document comes up called a Nikkahnama, reflecting the relationship as per Muslim law. State and county marriage license requirements often change.
People are yet to get oriented to global dynamics of relationships.
Unfortunately, some of them are holding key official positions while being ignorant.

What should be the appropriate question?
What should be the appropriate statement?

At the time of starting a relationship:
The relationship is governed by Muslim law.
The relationship is governed by Hindu law.
The relationship is governed by Christian law.
The relationship if governed by Buddhist customs.
The relationship is governed by clear terms and conditions as stated in the relationship document.
What are the details of this law?
What are the precise terms and conditions of the relationship?

While making a statement or designing a question:
I have a relationship as per Muslim law and a Nikkahnama.
I have a relationship as per Hindu law and have a document.
I have a relationship as per Christian law and have a document.
What are the terms and conditions of the relationship?
Who are witnesses to the document?
Who drafted the document?
What is the background of the case?
Where was the document drafted?
The above format should be the basic guidelines for federal, state, county, and city forms, as well as any court proceedings, deliberations, or any document to be issued in this context.

Why do you need relationships?

Emotional well-being; sexual well-being; romantic well-being. What are the most common causes of relationship harms: Sabotage, blocked communications, conflicts, not enough communication, money issues, issues with sex, managing conflict, misinterpretation of facts, alcohol, drug abuse, smoking, anger?
What are the requisites of civilised healthy relationships: Fidelity, availability, trust, emotional, sexual, romantic support?
What are the reasons for your relationship harms?
When do you need relationship counseling?
How should the relationship counseling go ahead: E-mail, phone, or face-to-face sessions?
How does one develop trust in a relationship?
Why do you need a relationship: emotional well-being, sexual well-being, romantic well-being?
What are the most common causes of relationship harms: sabotage, blocked communications, conflicts, not enough communication, money issues, issues with sex, managing conflict, misinterpretation of facts, alcohol, drug abuse, smoking, anger?
What are the requisites for a civilised healthy relationship: fidelity, availability, good hygiene, trust, emotional, sexual, romantic support?
What do you want in a relationship: truth, respect, trust, intimacy, love?

What are the do's and don't of a relationship?
Do what you say you will do, and call when you say you will call.
Do put an abundance of hard work and creativity into your relationship.
Do reevaluate that decision every few months.
Don't be demanding.
Don't be egotistic.
Don't lie - not even little lies - to your partner or to others.
Don't dig up old wounds. If you try to dig up old wounds, get an answer to this question: How could this be prevented?
Don't be jealous.
How do you define relationship trust?
How is trust built?
Always tell the truth and this will build trust.
When trust is lost, then the relationship will break.
How is relationship sabotage done?
How can one prevent relationship sabotage?
Fun Relationship Questions to Ask Your Lover 1. What's the best piece of relationship advice you've ever been given?? 2. What's your most embarrassing memory? 3. What's your favorite childhood memory? 4. How would your friends/coworkers describe you? 5. What games did you play when you were little? 6. 7. 8. On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you right now? 9. Do you have a sexual fantasy you'd like to share with me? 10. Is there anything you were passionate about when you were younger but that you gave up? 11. What's the stupidest thing you've ever done? 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. If there's one thing I could guarantee I'd change about myself, what would you have me change? 17. 18. If you were stranded somewhere for a long time, which book would you want to have with you? 19. Is there anyone from your past you have a hard forgiving? 20. What was your very first impression of me? 21. Where do you see yourself/us in 10 years? 20 years? 22. What's the number one thing you'd like to improve about yourself? 23. 24. What is something you've always wanted to try? 25. 26. What does my family do that you don't like? 27. 100 QUESTIONS FOR COUPLES 1.What was the first thing that attracted you about me? 2.Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a successful relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship? 3.When you look at a woman, what is the first thing you notice? 4.Do you think it's ok to keep noticing another woman after you are in a committed relationship? 5.What is the first thing that you notice when you look at a man? 6.If I don't say so, how do you know that I want to make love? 7.Describe the way I smell. 8.Tell me how you describe me to other people? 9.How often do you believe it is normal to want sex? 10.Do you masturbate? 11.How do you feel if I come into the bathroom when you are using the facilities? 12.When was the last time you took a shower together? 13.If your friend was cheating on their spouse, do you think you should tell their partner? 14.If your friend was cheating on their spouse, would you tell your spouse about it? 15.What were you thinking about right before you kissed me for the first time? 16.After I had asked you out for the first time, did you consider saying no? 17.Was there anything that you were worried about the first time we were about to become naked? 18.How old were you when you had your first kiss? 19.How old were you the first time you had sex? 20.How old were you the first time you thought you were in love? 21. 22. 23. 24.Who was the first person who died in your life and how did you feel? 25.What animals do you like and not like? 26. 27. 28.Do you have sexual dreams? Tell me about some of them. 29. 30. 31.How did you learn what it meant to be a man/woman? 32.Do you believe in God? 33. 34.If you had one day to live, what would you do? 35. 36. 37.Have you ever been cruel to an animal? 38.When you were a child, did you ever experiment sexually with another child? 39.Were you ever sexually, emotionally, or verbally abused? 40.Can you tell me what makes up your belief systems? 41.Who is the person you admire most and why? 42.What is the one thing that would be a relationship breaker for you? 43. 44. 45.How do you feel about having children? 46. 47.What is the one thing that I do that makes you crazy? 48.If you were really in trouble, who would you go to for advice? 49.Who do you feel responsible for in your life? 50.What are you beliefs about abortion? 51.How important do you believe organized religion is in a couples relationship? 52.Tell me when you first knew you loved me? 53.How do you handle anger? Has it ever caused a problem in your life? Frequently Asked Questions About Sex and Relationships * What is meant by a "healthy" sexual relationship? * Answer: A healthy sexual relationship is different for every couple because every individual has differing sexual needs. While the activities involved in each sexual relationship can vary widely, in general, "healthy" sex should encompass the following: o Both partners should feel equally pleased with the activities. o Neither partner should feel forced into doing something they don’t want to do. o The right to say “no” to sex at any time, for any reason. o Mutual respect before and after sex. o Neither party suffers a loss of self-esteem. o Trust exists as well as openness about sexual history and current activities. * Is there anything you can do to change or increase your sex drive? * Answer: Experts say the answer lies not so much in what your sex drive is, but whether or not it has reached its potential. While everyone’s level of desire is individual, it can also differ with each partner, and vary within a relationship, increasing or decreasing over time. Age can also alter sex drive, in men and women, and is usually linked to a decline in sex hormones. Moreover, there are a number of emotional and physical conditions, as well as medications, including some antidepressants, that can put a damper on desire. If a physical problem causes sex drive to plummet -- such as erection difficulties in men, or painful intercourse in women -- and treatment is received, desire usually increases. If emotions are getting in the way, talking to a counselor or sex therapist can help. And sometimes, sex drive will recharge on it’s own, as circumstances in your life change -- such as the introduction of a new sex partner. * Are you ever “too old” to make love? * Answer: Providing that both you and your partner are in good physical health, experts say both men and women can continue to have sex to any age. That said, the aging process itself, along with many health conditions, can make having sex increasingly difficult in later years. However, even if intercourse is not possible, remember that physical intimacy can take many forms, and that sometimes getting older really does mean getting wiser about the many ways in which partners can bring each other pleasure. * Can too much masturbation hurt your sex life? * Answer: As long as masturbation doesn't comprise the whole of your sex life, and does not take precedence over intimate relationships with a partner, then no, it's not generally believed to be harmful. That said, it's important to look at what your masturbation activities include. Is it just a mind fantasy, or are you using pornography, Internet videos or photos, or even online or telephone sex to increase your pleasure -- and does this upset your partner? Also important to consider: How much of your time do masturbation activities occupy and does it keep you from other things in your life, including having sex with a partner? If so, it can be problematic in many respects. * What is sex therapy, and what happens in a sex therapy session? * Answer: Sex therapy is a form of relationship counseling that focuses specifically on intimacy and sexual problems. A sex therapist can be a psychiatrist, psychologist, a family or marriage counselor, or sometimes even a clergyman, as long as they are specifically trained in this area. As with all forms of therapy, there are specific programs designed to help couples and individuals work through their sex-related issues. The role of a sex therapist is not to change someone's sex drive or orientation, but to help them maximize their potential for satisfaction and happiness. Generally, sex therapy is talk therapy. However, in a very small number of cases, surrogacy may be involved. But note, this is not common and should never be forced upon a patient, who should also not be encouraged to believe that surrogacy is their only treatment option. * What is the definition of “sex addiction” -- and what does it entail? * Answer: Sex addiction is described as an overwhelming need for sex, the pursuit of which frequently takes precedence over all other things in life, including work and relationships. Sex addicts frequently engage in risky behaviors, including not only unprotected sex, but also seeking stimulation in dangerous situations. Behavior is usually self-justified, so most sex addicts don’t view their actions as problematic, though they frequently feel a sense of shame or guilt after indulging their addiction. Behaviors associated with sex addiction include: Compulsive masturbation; multiple extramarital affairs; anonymous sex partners or strings of one night stands; c onsistent use of pornography; consistent need for phone or computer sex; continuous use of prostitutes; sexual exhibitionism (such as “flashing”); voyeurism (watching others have sex); stalking a sex partner. * Is having cyber sex considered unhealthy -- and does it constitute “cheating” on a spouse, even if you never meet your cybersex or phone sex partner? * Answer: If you find yourself online trolling through sex sites, you’re not alone. Studies show that “sex” is the most frequently searched word online, and some 15% of the 57 million Americans who log on each day are visiting pornographic sites. For most it’s a harmless recreation. However, a recent study published in the journal Professional Psychology found that those who spend 11 hours or more a week on Internet sex sites show clear signs of psychological distress, frequently admitting their online sex pursuits interfere with other aspects of their life. These folks also run the risk of dependence with an ever-increasing need for more time devoted to cyber sex. As to the cheating aspect, in the eyes of at least some experts, having any type of sexual activity outside your relationship is wrong. Others take a more liberal view, believing that as long as your partner is not bothered by your cyber affairs, no harm is done. However, all experts agree that when cyber sex replaces or interferes with intimate human relationships, then it represents a problem much bigger than “cheating.” Also be aware that frequently cybersex escalates to “real” sex when one of the partners may push for a meeting. * Is it necessary to take “safe sex” precautions when you are having sex with just one partner -- or with someone you know well? * Answer: If both you and your partner are totally monogamous -- meaning you have no physical sexual contact with another person outside of the relationship -- and you have both tested negative for HIV, and other STDs, then it is not necessary to practice “safe sex” in terms of disease transmission. If, however, the person with whom you are having sex is having relations with even one other person, or if even if you suspect they might be, then yes, safe sex practices are mandatory. The best protection against sexually transmitted disease is correct and regular use of a condom, a fresh one used for every encounter. Be aware, however, that some sexually transmitted diseases, such as genital herpes, can be contracted from the skin around the genitals, even when no obvious signs of disease are present. * Is there anything a person can do to change their sexual orientation -- or is someone born “straight” or “gay”? * Do aphrodisiacs really work? If so, which ones have the best track record? What is my favorite color? Do I have any birthmarks? If so, where? What color are my eyes? Do you remember the first thing I said to you? Where did we meet? What was your first impression of me? What is my best feature? What’s your favorite memory of me? If there was one good nickname for me, what would it be? What;s my favorite type of music? Am I shy or outgoing? What is one thing I need to improve on? Do I have any special talents? What is your favorite body part on me? Why? Can you read me by looking into my eyes? What is my favorite type of food? What grade was I in when I had my first kiss? What size shoe do I wear? Where was our first public kiss? What is my favorite type of flowers? Do I prefer coffee or tea? When I get a sweet tooth, do I go for chocolate or sugary candy? Am I right or left handed? Where was our first picture together taken? Do you have any questions?
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Would you like to add anything? What is the difference between love, romance, and sex? How often do you REALLY just talk as a couple? What makes you the most uncomfortable when you are alone together or in public together? What would ruin your relationship beyond repair? Do you feel that you trust each other completely? What kind of touch, communication, or demonstration best says "I love you" to you? What creates tensions between you both? Explain from your point of view and how you see your partner's point of view. What can you as a couple do to bring you closer together? List at least 5 things. Have you ever held you back, intimacy-wise, in your other relationships? and if so, Have you changed that in your current relationship? How do you feel that your self-esteem effects your relationship? Has your partner ever brought up your self-esteem issues as a problem in the relationship? and if so, What have you done to correct it? Do you feel that your relationship has any communication problems? and Do you think that the communication in your relationship has gained strength? Anything else that you would like to say about YOU! Would you like a reply to your answers? Relationship Questions to Ask (Days 0 – 30) 1. 2. What types of things do you enjoy? 3. How do you spend your free time? 4. 5. 6. 7. What do you like about me? 8. What do you think are your best qualities? 9. What do you think are your worst qualities? 10. 11. Currently involved a relationship? 12. Would you say you’re an introvert or extrovert? 13. What are the most important things in your life right now? 14. Do you drink, smoke or do drugs? How often? What type? 15. How long have you been single? 16. 17. Relationship Questions (Days 30 – 90) Once you’re past the first month, you know if there is some degree of interest or chemistry. However, you still don’t know if there is enough compatibility to move past the friend zone.The idea for days 30 – 90 is to get to know each other far better than you can with small talk. You’ll want to ask relationship questions that tell you if you’ve met someone you can potentially date on a serious level, or if you’re about to hit a dead end. Look for signs of compatibility such as similar temperaments, things you have in common and comparable expectations. More importantly, look for red flags that tell you to run like hell. 18. What do you like about me so far? 19. What is your religion, if any? How important is it to you? 20. What type of pet(s) do you have? Are there any types of pets that you dislike or prefer not to be around? 21. How interested are you in politics? 22. How often do you travel? 23. Do you have a lot of friends of the opposite sex? 24. Do you gamble? How much? 25. How many times have you been in love? 26. What are your pet peeves? 27. What are your goals for the future? 28. What qualities do you look for in a mate? 29. Are you a risk taker? 30. Do you like to cook? How often do you like to dine out? 31. What are you passionate about? 32. 33. When is it okay to physically harm the person you’re in a relationship with? 34. 35. What is your biggest fear? Relationship Questions to Ask (90 Days – 6 Months) If you’ve dated someone for more than 3 months, there is a chance that things are starting to get somewhat serious. At this phase, you should both feel more comfortable opening up to each other. These relationship questions will help you to make the most of that. Some of the questions below may have come up in conversations prior to the 90 day mark and that is great. But there is much more to learn. The goal of your relationship questions after the first 90 days is to spark some pretty significant conversations, thus opening the door to a more intimate connection. Try to get the answers out in the open before you’re involved so seriously that it’s hard to turn back. Once again, look for compatibility as well as red flags. 36. How are you feeling about me/us so far? 37. If you could change one thing about me, what would it be? 38. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? 39. How is your relationship with your mother? Father? 40. How do you handle anger? 41. Are you satisfied with where you are in life right now? Why? Why not? 42. 43. 44. 45. What are your views on gender roles in relationships? 46. What was your best relationship? What was so great about it? Why did it end? 47. What was your worst relationship? What was so bad about it? How long did it last? 48. Have you ever had your heart broken? 49. What does a healthy relationship look like to you? 50. What types of lessons have you learned from failed relationships? 51. How important is sex to you? 52. Do you get jealous easily? 53. Do you want to have children some day? How many? Are you attracted to other women? What happened in your past relationships? Where (or how) do you think our relationship is going? What are you thinking? (Usually asked in bed...) Do you enjoy being with your friends more than being with me?