Dr. Q's Nikkah Counseling.

Q) What's your political affiliation?
Q) How important is religion?
Q) Nikkah and marriage certificate - What's the difference?
Q) What is fidelity?
Q) What are conjugal rights?
Q) What is Talaq?
Q) Talaq and Divorce - What's the difference?
Q) What is Mehr?
Q) Conspiracies, Politically motivated Criminal wrong doing


PRE-MARITAL PREPERATION
Q) What does Nikkah mean to you? Please complete the following questions:
Q) The most important thing in Nikkah is.....
Q) I am most uncomfortable when people.....
Q) People like me best when.....
Q) If I could be different, I would wish for.....
Q) What I want most in my mate is.....
Q) Generally speaking, my .....
Q) My father is.....
Q) My mother is.....
Q) My relationship with my brothers and sisters is.....
Q) My definition of the ideal Nikkah is.....
Q) My goal in life is.....
Q) Love means.....
Q) Is your ______ ready and mature enough for a lifetime commitment?
Q) How long have you known each other?
Q) How long have you been ______?
Q) How long have you been serious?
Q) Do you have a _____?
Q) Are you _______ now?
Q) How has Religion been a part of your relationship so far? Family Issues
Q) How many children do you want?
a. What about sex?
b. When do you plan to start having children?
c. How do you pick their names?
d. What kind of school will they be in?
e. Will you provide college funds?
f. Who helps with homework?
g. Who goes to ______?
h. Who gets up at 2 a.m. to feed?
i. Who disciplines?
j. What kind of discipline will be used?
2. Will your ______ be permitted to take ______ away from you?
i. With who?
ii. How long?

Q) Will both of you work after you have children?
a. Who stays home?
b. What type of daycare?
c. Until the child is how old?
4. What kind of clothes will you buy them?
5. Will they have a computer, TV, etc. in their room?
Lifestyle Issues
Q) What kind of home?
Q) Where?
Q) What color?
Q) Who picks the furniture?
Q) Who picks the decor?
Q) How much landscaping?
Q) Who cleans the house?
Q) Who maintains the yard?
Q) What type of vehicle?
Q) Who picks it?
Q) How many?
Q) Who maintains?
Q) Will you be able to go out with relatives without your spouse?
a. For how long?
b. How far away?
c. For what reason?

Q) How often will guests be invited over?
a. How do you decide when?
b. How do you decide who?

Q) Will ______ be allowed in your home? a. Will use of ______ be permitted?
Q) Will ______ be allowed in your home? a. Will the use of ______ be permitted?
Q) Will tobacco, in any form, be allowed in your home?
No a. Will use of tobacco, in any form, be permitted?
No
Q) Will there be a TV in the home?
a. How much TV is OK
b. How much TV will the kids be allowed to watch?
c. What kind of TV will the kids be allowed to watch?

Q) Will the internet be allowed in the home?
a. Will the kids have access to the internet?
b. Will it be a filtered internet service?
c. What type of sites will they be permitted to view?
d. Will the kids have access to e-mail?
e. How will you monitor internet and e-mail usage?

Q) Do you have any hobbies?
a. How much time goes into your hobbies?
b. How much money goes into your hobbies?

Q) Who does the cooking?
a. What kind of food?
b. How many “big meals? A week?

Q) Will junk food be allowed in your home?
a. Will the kids be allowed to eat junk food?
b. How much?

Q) Will you have any pets?
a. What kind?
b. How many?
c. Who cares for them?
d. Who takes them to the Vet?

Q) Who will be your physician?
Q) Who will be your dentist?
Q) Who is your OBY/GEN?
Q) Do you have/will you have health insurance?
Q) Do you have/will you have supplemental insurance?
Q) What are your cultural and intellectual interests?(______)
Q) What type of books do you enjoy?
Q) What type of movies do you enjoy?
Q) What are your favorite restaurants?
Q) What level of education do you have?
Q) What are your educational goals? Spiritual Values
Q) Your religious background:
Q) Do you know what it means to be a "Muslim?"
Q) Are you a Muslim?
Q) Is your prospective mate a Muslim?
Q) What Fiqh do you belong to?
Q) To what Fiqh or denomination does your prospective mate belong to now?
Q) If there are differences above, how will the two of you resolve them?
Q) Do you plan for your family to be active and regular in Mosque life and attendance?
Q) Will religion be taught in the home? By Who?
Q) Will faith be a guiding issue in your home?
Q) Who is ______?
Q) Have you discussed spiritual issues together?
Q) Will religious symbols/items be displayed in the home?
Q) Have you considered what Mosque the two of you will attend after Nikkah?
Q) What one thing would make you the happiest person in the world?
Q) What is necessary for you to have a happy home?
Q) What emphasis will you place upon the accumulation of wealth and property in your Nikkah?
Q) Do either of you feel the need to use ______?
Q) Have you discussed spiritual issues together?
Q) What have you found during these discussions?

Your Family and In-Laws


Q) Do your parents know you are planning to Nikkah?
Q) Do they approve of your intention to Nikkah?
Q) How are your parents and homes alike? Different? (family size, religion, education, ethnic backgrounds, age, _________)
Q) How well do you know each other's families?
Q) Will you live with (or near) either set of parents after Nikkah?
Q) How emotionally close are you to your parents?
Q) How independent are you from your parents?
Q) How long should family members stay in your home for visits?
Q) How do you decide if someone stays with you?
Q) How often should parents come to visit?
Q) What rights does a visitor have in your home?
a. Tobacco (in any form No)
b. Drugs (in any form No)
c. Drinking (in any form No)
Q) Who do you visit on Holidays?

Q) Will you accept ______ from your parents? Loans?
Q) Whose money is it?
Q) How do you decide on major purchases?
a. What is a major purchase?

Q) How much to savings?

Q) How much to ______?
Q) Will you have life insurance?
a. How much?
b. Who is covered?
c. Who is the beneficiary?
Roles and Expectations

Q) What are a _____ and ______ like?
Q) Who would you look to as a ______ and ______?
Q) What is your concept of family leadership?
Q) How do you plan to make major family decisions?
Q) How do you feel about traditional ____ and ______ roles in comparison to new roles?
Q) Is there "women's work" and "men's work" in a household?
Q) How do you plan to handle household routines and chores?
Q) How will you deal with conflict in role expectations?

Verbal Communication

(Answer each question Yes or No for yourself, then answer each question as you think your prospective spouse would answer.
Q) Does your spouse wait until you are through before having his or her say?
Q) Does your family do things as a group?
Q) Does your family talk things over with each other?
Q) Does your spouse seem to respect your opinion?
Q) Do you discuss personal problems with your spouse?
Q) Does your spouse tend to talk to you as if you were less capable than you are?
Q) Does your spouse show an interest in your interests and activities?
Q) Do you discuss matters of sex with your spouse?
Q) Does your spouse trust you?
Q) Do you find it hard to say what you really feel?
Q) Does your spouse have confidence in your abilities?
Q) Do you hesitate to disagree?
Q) Does your spouse try to see your side of things?
Q) Does your spouse consider your opinion in making decisions?
Q) Does your spouse try to make you feel better when you are down in the dumps?
Q) Do you help your spouse to understand you by telling him or her how you think and feel?

Nonverbal Communication

"Even when you do not say so, I know you are....." a. happy when..... b. nervous and/or anxious when..... c. angry when..... d. preoccupied when..... e. sad when..... f. worried when..... g. understanding when..... h. love me when..... i. trustworthy when..... j. feeling sexy when..... k. (will be) a good mate when..... l. disappointed with me when.....

Future

Q) What is your Main goal in life?
Q) What other important goals do you have?
Q) What do you see as your purpose in life?
Q) Where do you see your Nikkah in 10 years?
Q) Where do you see your Nikkah in 25 years?
Q) Where do you see your Nikkah in 50 years?
Q) Why do you want to commit your life to this person in Nikkah?

Dr. Qureshi's Nikkah Counseling.

Q) What is your name? Q) What is your real, birth name? Q) Where and when were you born? Q) Where did you go to high school? Q) Where did you go to college? Q) What's your political affiliation? Q) How important is religion? Q) Nikkah/Nikkahnama and marriage certificate - What's the difference? Q) What is fidelity? Q) What are conjugal rights? Q) What is Talaq? Q) Talaq and Divorce - What's the difference? Q) What is Mehr? Q) What is the population of the world today? Q) Do we know exactly how many people live in the world today? Today the population of the world is more than six billion. Q) What is the total population of all of North America? The population of North America is Less than 600 million. Conspiracies, Politically motivated Criminal wrong doing. Q) What is RAW? Raw is a loosely knit Hindu business coterie with overseas implications. Raw has an intelligence network. Raw places Ambassadors, Governors, Chief Justice, Member Parliament, Chief Secretaries, Head of the Police, Chief ministers, even the Prime minister and President. Raw needs dunderheads who are going to be rubber stamps for Raw. While handling such cases, the following questions need to be answered. Q) Is there a Nikkahnama? Q) Did they see a counselor who is a Muslim? Q) Did they see a counselor who knows what Nikkahnama is? Q) Did they see a Non-Muslim counselor who knows what Nikkahnama is? Q) Is the counselor fully trained in handling such cases? Q) Do you have Muslim counselors? Q) Do you need to get them from abroad? Q) Is the counselor fully experienced to overcome, or at least have the courage to report, sabotage that has been done in the process of counseling? Q) Does the counselor know what fidelity is? Q) Does the counselor know what conjugal rights are? Q) Does counselor know the difference between a Nikkahnama and marriage certificate? While handling such cases, the following questions need to be answered. Q: Is there a Nikkahnama? Q: Did they see a counselor who is a Muslim? Q: Did they see a counselor who knows what Nikkahnama is? Q: Did they see a Non-Muslim counselor who knows what Nikkahnama is? Q: Is the counselor fully trained in handling such cases? Q: Do you have Muslim counselors? Q: Do you need to get them from abroad? Q: Is the counselor fully experienced to overcome, or at least have the courage to report, sabotage that has been done in the process of counseling? Q: Does the counselor know what fidelity is? Q: Does the counselor know what conjugal rights are? Q: Does counselor know the difference between a Nikkahnama and marriage certificate? Q: Under which scenarios is the legal concept of Talaq applicable? Q: How are Talaq proceedings different from divorce proceedings? Q: Why is Talaq rare? Q: Under what scenarios is the legal concept of divorce applicable? Q: Under what scenarios is the legal concept of criminal wrongdoing applicable? Q: In this scenario, which legal concept is applicable and why? While handling such cases, the following questions need to be answered. Q) Is there a Nikkahnama? Q) Did they see a counselor who is a Muslim? Q) Did they see a counselor who knows what Nikkahnama is? Q) Did they see a Non-Muslim counselor who knows what Nikkahnama is? Q) Is the counselor fully trained in handling such cases? Q) Do you have Muslim counselors? Q) Do you need to get them from abroad? Q) Is the counselor fully experienced to overcome, or at least have the courage to report, sabotage that has been done in the process of counseling? Q) Does the counselor know what fidelity is? Q) Does the counselor know what conjugal rights are? Q) Does counselor know the difference between a Nikkahnama and marriage certificate? Q) Under which scenarios is the legal concept of Talaq applicable? Q) How are Talaq proceedings different from divorce proceedings? Q) Why is Talaq rare? Q) Under what scenarios is the legal concept of divorce applicable? Q) Under what scenarios is the legal concept of criminal wrongdoing applicable? Q) In this scenario, which legal concept is applicable and why? Q) Is this my responsibility to make you understand? Q) What did you understand? Q) Why do I need to teach you this? Q) Why didn't you get these skills and knowledge before getting hired? Q: What are the issues you need to discuss before getting Nikkahnama or marriage certificate document? Q: What problems may come up after Nikkahnama or marriage certificate document? Q) Forensic Medicine and Forensic Psychology: What's the difference? Q) What is Forensic Psychology? For Example: Q) Who were the judges in Florida who handled case of George Bush in 2001? Q) How did they evaluate his character? Q) Who was the governor of Florida at the time? Q) Who recalled the governor of California? Why? Q) What is criminal wrong doing? Q) George Bush abducts Judge holderman's spouse: Is that criminal wrong doing? Q) George Bush rapes Judge holderman's spouse: Is that criminal wrong doing? Q) George Bush kills Judge holderman's spouse: Is that criminal wrong doing?

Defining normality, identifying abnormal behaviors, and understanding current diagnostic categories. Several questions remain to be answered: How often do you take a bath? How often should you take a bath? Daily. How often do you brush your teeth? How often should you brush your teeth? Daily. How often do you exercise? How often should you exercise? Daily. How often do you pray? How often should you pray? Daily. What did I tell you? Can you repeat it? How often do you lie? How often should you lie? Never. How often do you use alcohol? How often should you use alcohol? Never. How often do you abuse drugs? How often should you abuse drugs? Never. How often do you smoke? How often should you smoke? Never. What did I tell you? Can you repeat it?

Mafia What is the Mafia? How do you punish the Mafia? How do you detect the Mafia within the administration? Intervention programs designed to prevent harms. Q) What is a good character? Q) What is a bad character? Q) How did whites develop bad character? Q) How is the public alerted about the same? Q) What remedial actions are necessary? Q) How is their bad character harming the rest of the world? Q) Should Whites be barred from administrative and business dynamics? or Q) Should only White criminals be prosecuted? Q) What punishments do they deserve? Q) Where are Whites positioned? Take a look at their performances. Take a look at their salaries. Are they worth that much salary? Take a look at the harm they have inflicted. Q) What key positions have they occupied? Q) What key international contracts have they grabbed? Q) What key local contracts have they grabbed? Q) How do we ensure social sanctions? Q) How do we ensure oil sanctions? Q) How do we implement civil disobedience? Q) How do we implement military disobedience? Q) How do we implement and enforce oil sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce economic sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce aviation sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce communications sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce navy sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce trade sanctions? Q) Who can be helpful in implementing and enforcing these sanctions? Q) Who can provide/offer supportive services?

Personal effectiveness. Self-esteem, self-efficacy. How do you detect another person's incompetence? How do you detect another person's lack of education? How do you detect that another person is a racist? How do you determine that you are dealing with a coterie of racists? How do you talk to a racist?

Counseling in a culturally-diverse society. Q) What is a protest? Q) How do you protest? Q) What do you do when civilized protests are ignored? Q) Who has the answer? Q) Who is willing to answer? Q) Who has the duty and responsibility to answer? Q) What is a civilized method of protest? Q) How has protest been misinterpreted as disorderly conduct or vandalism? Q) What is disorderly conduct and vandalism? Q) What should be the punishment for false testimony? Q) What should be the punishments for maliciously inducing false testimony? Q) What should you do next if civilized protest does not redress your genuine concerns? Q) What do you do when civilized protest do not get results of your genuine concerns? Q) Do people need to protest once their rights are violated, or do people need to enforce their rights with weapons? The Globalization of Psychology Q) What are the duties and responsibilities of a counselor? Before starting counseling, a counselor should be able to answer the following questions. Q) Who needs counseling? Q) Why does he/she need counseling? Q) What should be the end result? Q) Will anyone object to the end results? Q) If so, who? Q) What will be the consequences of the end results? Q) Who should be held responsible for deficiency of services? Q) Will the end results enhance safety, security, needs, interests, values and rights? Q) Will the end results address the harms inflicted? Q) Who has the duty and responsibility to address these deficiencies? Q) How does counseling work? Q) What lead to recommendations for counseling? Q) Why does an employee or head of an organization need counseling? Q) When should an employee or head of the organization seek counseling? Q) What kind of counseling does the employee or head of the organization need? Q) What happens to the information about the client? Q) Does the counselor understand the claims and the background of the claims? Q) What leads to recommendations for counseling for an employee or head of an organization? Q) What is the public safety act? Q) Under what scenarios is this act applicable? Q) Under what scenarios is this act not applicable? Q) What are the consequences of misuse or wrong application of this act? Q) How has this act been misused? Q) How can this act be misused? Q) Who has misused this act? Q) What are the checks and balanced in the system to check misuse of same? Q) What are the scenarios under which the head of the administration, managers, administrators, and executives can be barred from public affairs under this act? Q) Under what scenarios can administrators be punished further? Harms like psychological torture, physical torture, corruption of political regulations, racism, deprivations of rights under the color of law, political abuse, discrimination, disruption, exclusion are submitted to the attorney general and his subordinates. Presentation of facts seems inflammatory and intimidating to them. Q) What does this reflect? This reflects incompetence, racism, and lack of skills and knowledge. Q) What needs to be done immediately? Q) What needs to be done later? Dr. Qureshi's Nikkah Counseling. Q: What is your name? ما اسمك؟ Q: What is your real, birth name? Q: Where and when were you born? Q: Where did you go to high school?أين ذهبت إلى المدرسة الثانوية؟ Q: Where did you go to college? أين ذهبت إلى الجامعة؟ Q: What's your political affiliation? Q: How important is religion? Q: Nikkah/Nikkahnama and marriage certificate - What's the difference? Q: How important is religion? Q: Nikkah/Nikkahnama and marriage certificate - What's the difference? Q: What is fidelity? ما هو الإخلا Q: What are conjugal rights? ما هي الحقوق الزوجية؟ Q: What is Talaq? Q: Talaq and Divorce - What's the difference? Q: What is Mehr? Q: What is the population of the world today? Q: Do we know exactly how many people live in the world today? Today the population of the world is more than six billion. Q: What is the total population of all of North America? The population of North America is Less than 600 million. Conspiracies, Politically motivated Criminal wrong doing. Q: What is RAW? Raw is a loosely knit Hindu business coterie with overseas implications. Raw has an intelligence network. Raw places Ambassadors, Governors, Chief Justice, Member Parliament, Chief Secretaries, Head of the Police, Chief ministers, even the Prime minister and President. Raw needs dunderheads who are going to be rubber stamps for Raw. Here are important guidelines. Q: Who are the political cults or parties whose members are involved in this type of harms? Indian National conference, Indian Congress, U.S. Republicans, U.S. Democrats. Few European as well. Q: What are the solutions remedies if it is due to conspiracies or sabotage? Punishment of saboteurs and conspirators is the best option. Remedies to the victims: In some regions of world if you don't show affiliation to a specific political cult or clout, or oppose them, they do relationship conspiracy, sabotage and harms. Q: How could this have been prevented? Awareness of use of these techniques and tricks from people in the administration and political cults or parties. Punishment of saboteurs. We need to focus on these questions. What is good human character? What is good human behavior? What are the rights of a civilized human being? Who is a civilized human being? If people know correct answers to these questions and practice answers to these questions, things will be much better. Mafia What is the Mafia? How do you punish the Mafia? How do you detect the Mafia within the administration? Intervention programs designed to prevent harms. Q) What is a good character? Q) What is a bad character? Q) How did whites develop bad character? Q) How is the public alerted about the same? Q) What remedial actions are necessary? Q) How is their bad character harming the rest of the world? Q) Should Whites be barred from administrative and business dynamics? or Q) Should only White criminals be prosecuted? Q) What punishments do they deserve? Q) Where are Whites positioned? Take a look at their performances. Take a look at their salaries. Are they worth that much salary? Take a look at the harm they have inflicted. Q) What key positions have they occupied? Q) What key international contracts have they grabbed? Q) What key local contracts have they grabbed? Q) How do we ensure social sanctions? Q) How do we ensure oil sanctions? Q) How do we implement civil disobedience? Q) How do we implement military disobedience? Q) How do we implement and enforce oil sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce economic sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce aviation sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce communications sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce navy sanctions? Q) How do we implement and enforce trade sanctions? Q) Who can be helpful in implementing and enforcing these sanctions? Q) Who can provide/offer supportive services? There are lots of scandals with whites maliciously operating behind the scenes. Did you have sex with any white male before you got this job? Did you have sex with any white male after getting this job? Did you participate in a scandal on the instigation of any white male? Did you have sex with any white male before you testified? What is a good character? What is a bad character? Do you know human behaviour can be controlled both overtly and covertly? Do you know human behaviour can be manipulated both overtly and covertly? Q. What is harassment? Q. What are the different types of harassment? Q. What is sexual harassment? Q. What is "Quid pro Quo" harassment? Q. What is Tangible Employment Action Harassment? Q: What is Hostile Environment Harassment? Q. Is there always an investigation conducted and, if so, who will conduct the investigation? Q. What resources are available to me for further guidance? Q. What are some examples of sexual harassment? Q. What should I do if I feel I have been sexually harassed? Q. What about false allegations? Q. What is the purpose and possible outcome of an investigation? Q. Who is typically involved in an investigation? Q. What if I am retaliated against? Q. What should I do if I feel in danger?