Attributes
achieved; has-	hasn't achieve
adventurous	conventional
substance-free	substance-abuse (alcohol, drug)
alert	dull
aware of opportunities	ignorant of opportunities
calm	excitable, nervous
clean [ep to 9 levels]	dirty, unkempt
clear goals	lack of, jumbled goals; directionless
clear thoughts	muddled thoughts, confused
completes	leaves hanging, doesn't complete
comprehends	doesn't comprehend
conscious	unconscious
conscious of one's weaknesses	unconscious of one's strengths
constructive	destructive, complaining
content-oriented	outer, surface, form-oriented
creative	uncreative
delegates	tries to do everything
deliberative	reckless
detail-oriented	scrimps on details
develops mental capabilities	leaves mental capacities as is
directed, has direction	directionless, unfocused
disciplined	dissipating
dynamic	passive
educated	uneducated
education exceed previous generation	education not exceed previous generation
education greater than present level of achievement	education less than present level of achievement
education greater than previous generation	education less than previous generation
efficient	inefficient
effort taking	lack of effort
effort achieves results	effort wasted
energetic	listless
enterprising	enterprising, not
entrepreneurial	entrepreneurial, not
envisions the unseen	visionless
experienced (in area)	inexperienced (in area)
fatigue-free	tired, fatigued
focused	unfocused, addled, scattered
goal-oriented	goalless, directionless
good	evil
graceful	clumsy
has enough time	never has enough time
health robust, strong constitution	poor health, weak constitution
high goals	low, no goals
higher social interests	lower, no social interests
idea-driven	ideas don't motivate to act
imaginative	unimaginative
improves self	stays the same
in rapidly expanding field of work	in static or declining field
initiates (has initiative)	lacks initiative
innovative	conservative
insightful	lacks insight, blind to, ignorant of
intelligent	stupid
knowledgeable	ignorant, uniformed
knowledgeable in a particular area	no knowledge in a particular area
leads others	submits, yields to others
lives from the depths of life	lives on the surface of life, superficial
lucky; things go your way	unlucky
money circulated for improvement	money hoarded for security
motivated	unmotivated
nerves strong	nerves weak
objective	subjective, biased
observant	blind to, oblivious to
organized	disorganized
patient	impatient, expectant
personable	non-engaging, distant, cold
physical stamina	lack of stamina
polite, mannered	impolite, ill mannered, rude
previous success in family life	previous failure in family life
previous success in school	previous failure in school
previous success in work	previous failure in work
productive interactions with others	chit-chatting
professional (acts)	amateurish (acts)
professional qualification achieved	no professional qualification
punctual	late
regular	irregular, erratic
relationship with other(s) positive	relationship with other(s) negative
resourceful	unresourceful, helpless
responsible	irresponsible
results-oriented	does for doing's sake, being merely occupied
risk-taker	averse to risk
sees the whole picture	seeing only parts of the picture
seeks improvement	self-satisfied
spiritual, inner connection	lacks any spiritual, inner connection
stamina	lack of stamina
strong; physically-	weak; physically-
strong; psychologically-	weak; psychologically-
stress-free, relaxed	stressed, tense
(has had) supportive family or friends	(has had) indifferent, uncaring family or friends
systematic	unsystematic, disorganized, disorderly, random
tough	weak, soft
trustworthy	untrustworthy
wealthy	impoverished
wealth in present generation	poverty in present generation
well-behaved	ill behaved
work is in harmony with personal life	work is in conflict with personal life

 

Social Endowments
affectionate family upbringing	indifferent, hostile family upbringing
high mental abilities in family	poor mental abilities in family
parents attained high social status	parents have low social status
parents motivated, gave direction	parents demotivated, gave no direction
parents rose & accomplished	parents remained in same position
(inheritance) physical attributes are fine	(inheritance) physical attributes are poor
(had) previous success (in school, work, family life)	(had) previous failure (in school, work, family life)
prosperity in family upbringing	poverty in family upbringing
psychological health and well-being	psychological problems
prosperity in surrounding society	poverty in surrounding society
supportive social environment	indifferent social environment

 

 

Skills
capacity to judge others	unable to judge others
careful, graceful with objects	careless, clumsy
communication skills	communication skills, lack of
(can) exercise authority	cannot exercise authority
delegation skills	delegation skills, lack of
leadership skills	leadership skills, lack of
listening skills	listening skills, lack of
management skills	management skills, lack of
motivating skills	motivating skills, lack of
negotiating skills	negotiating skills, lack of
organization skills	organization skills, lacks
planning skills	planning skills, lack of
problem-solving skills	problem-solving skills, lack of
public speaking skills	public speaking skills, lack of
reconciling problems, conflicts at higher level skills	reconciling problems, conflicts at higher level skills, lack of
skilled	unskilled
skilled, talented exceptionally in particular area	not skilled, talented exceptionally in particular area
speaking skills	speaking skills, lack of
teamwork skills	teamwork skills, lack of
technical work skills	technical work skills, lack of
time management skills	time management skills, lack of
verbal skills	verbal skills, lack of
writing skills	writing skills, lack of

The 10 Most Desirable Traits in Human Beings 1. Integrity The true definition of integrity comes from the Latin word integritas, which means “whole” or “intact.” It encumbers all the traits that make a truly “good” person, such as honesty, being incorruptible, straight and morally upright. A person with integrity won’t lie, will keep their word and won’t screw you over. They won’t go behind your back, badmouth you, go after another person’s partner or cheat on you, and they adhere to a code of ethics that may make them predictable, but safe to the heart and one’s sanity. No unpleasant surprises come from someone with a high sense of integrity. They follow a code of ethics that tends to be, as the word suggests, incorruptible, and they adhere to principles of common decency. 2. Courageousness Let’s face it, people. Who wants to be with a coward? Someone who can’t and won’t stand up for their own beliefs will definitely not stand up for you or anyone else. Courageousness may not seem like such a big deal to some, but upon examining history, one notices that cowards are not too different from criminals. Why? Because most atrocious crimes to mankind would not have succeeded had it not been for the silent bystanders and those who looked the other way. No courage usually also means no principles, which will make you expendable for the simple reason that a coward will only do the least effort required and will tug tail and run when true work is required. 3. Sense of Humor Life has ups and downs. There will be good times, bad times, hard times and easy times. Everything is easier if one keeps a sense of humor, or at least surrounds oneself with those who have one. There is a reason that poll after poll shows that most people desire a sense of humor in their partners. I also feel that someone who makes me laugh most of the time will probably not make me cry too often either. For some odd reason, this equation works for me. 4. Intelligence, Education and Common Sense I have met plenty of people in my life with high IQs and no common sense. My personal belief is that common sense, social intelligence and “street smarts” are pretty much the same. Being able to solve the most difficult mathematical problems won’t make anyone a great partner or friend, if they cannot hold a conversation, relate to other people at all and have zero social skills. Social skills or relating to others are abilities required to use common sense, which dictates what or what not to do or say in every day settings. Overall, I don’t think any further explanation is required when it comes to this point. 5. Emotionally Open No one wants to be with someone who is so closed off that they can’t show the most “normal” emotions. If you have ever tried to be friends or have a relationship with someone who has the emotional depth of a rock, you’ll know what I mean. How would someone who has a hard time feeling, or showing feelings, relate to you? I feel that the happy medium is our friend here. There is a difference between someone who is so closed off that they just look at you blankly, or worse, scold you or put you down when you’re feeling sad or miserable, and then there are those who break down as soon as someone looks at them the wrong way. Being able to share one’s heart doesn’t mean that one has to be a weakling or whiner. Someone who can’t feel is usually damaged goods, and lack of depth in emotional matters usually translates into lack of depth in other matters! 6. Kindness Kindness protects you from all kinds of heart-aches. Kindness is like integrity. A person who possesses kindness will usually keep your heart safe and your best interests in mind. Their willingness to help others also translates into someone who knows how to put another’s needs ahead of their own when needed. A kind person carries a light, and that light tends to attract other “good” people too. 7. Self-Confidence Everyone is low on confidence now and then. But stay clear of those with literally no self-esteem. A person without self-confidence/self-esteem spells disaster, because they will fail on numerous other “must-haves.” They are usually driven by self-preservation, and will do almost anything to overcome their feelings of inadequacy. This can make them psychotic and distrusting, and possibly even make them into stalkers. Which, in return, almost always ensures dishonesty, a closed heart/inability to truly feel and experience love and joy, a lack of integrity and definitely no courage. They’re usually a bucket with a huge hole in the bottom. No matter how much love and care one will pour into them, it will never be enough to make them feel safe, loved or good enough. After all, it’s impossible to love and care for someone who doesn’t love and care for themselves! 8. Discipline There are different levels of discipline, that’s for sure. But avoid those who have absolutely no discipline at all. It requires discipline to succeed in life. Anyone who throws in the towel at the first sign of difficulty or opposition will not make a great long-term companion. This is because discipline translates into stamina, i.e. staying power. A person who can’t stick with anything for a longer period of time because it’s uncomfortable or means work is, again, someone who is either not confident or lazy. In either scenario, it’s not going to be a winning situation for you, because if they can’t stick with their own goals, they won’t stick with you either. 9. Generosity One of the worst people to have in one’s life is a miser. Those who constantly complain about the money they don’t have, especially while spending it on things that don’t serve them, are not only annoying, but also no fun to have around. The opposite of generous is selfish, and who wants to be with a selfish person? Being miserly also tends to show individuals who are very preoccupied with material, i.e. superficial things. Combine that with the constant complaint about not having enough, and you’ll get a good picture of how life with someone who can’t be generous looks like. 10. Self-Awareness I can’t stress the importance of self-awareness enough. Most people believe themselves to be all kinds of things which they are not. This is due to the fact that they aren’t really all that self-aware, and hence don’t ever check to see if their idea of who they are actually coincides with what other people see about them. Self-awareness is the fine middle ground of truly knowing your strengths and weaknesses without being either completely weak and self-loathing, or arrogant and narcissistic. Self-awareness allows us to know when we are way off our rocker. It allows us to see when we are wrong/screwed up and need to possibly adjust or change certain behaviors and patterns. Self-awareness allows us to look in the mirror and see who we really are; not who we think we are or hoped we were. People without self-awareness cannot grow, because they will never learn from past mistakes. They are literally blind and lost souls, stumbling after what looks and sounds the most appealing. Without self-awareness there is no truth, just illusion; and a perpetual cycle of trying to find what they think will make them happy. If you don’t know who you are, you sure as hell won’t know what makes you happy.