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What are manners? What are good manners? |
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What are manners? Manners is a term usually preceded by the word good or bad to indicate whether or not a behavior is socially acceptable. What are good manners? Manner #1 When asking for something, say "Please." Manner #2 When receiving something, say "Thank you." Manner #3 Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking. Manner #4 If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation. Manner #5 When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later. Manner #6 The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults. Manner #7 Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome. Related: Raise Polite Kids Manner #8 When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are. Manner #9 When you have spent time at ________, remember ________. Manner #10 Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering. Manner #11 When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling. Manner #12 Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any _________. In the age of e-mail, __________. Manner #13 Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant. Manner #14 Don't call people mean names. Manner #15 Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Manner #16 Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best. Manner #17 If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me." Manner #18 Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public. Manner #19 As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else. Manner #20 If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new. Manner #21 When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile. Manner #22 When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers! Manner #23 Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do. Manner #24 Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary. Manner #25 Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed. |
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Good Manners All people need and want things. What one person needs and wants may be different from the needs and wants of another person. When people live together in a family or even in a ______, these different needs and wants can lead to conflicts. To make living together easier, good manners have developed over the years. Good manners are ways of treating people so that people feel better about themselves and about each other, and so that conflicts don’t become serious. When someone does something for us or gives us something, saying “thank you” is good manners. When we hurt someone, saying “I’m sorry” is also good manners. It’s good manners to say “excuse me” if we pass very closely in front of someone, if we need to get another person’s attention, or if we burp in front of someone else. Good manners, then, can be found in saying “thank you” “I’m sorry”, and “excuse me,” but good manners are more than words. Good manners are also actions. When we give someone else our seat on a crowded bus, when we hold the door open for another person to walk through, when we wait our turn, when we walk on the right-hand side of the mall or sidewalk, when we knock before opening the closed door of a room, those things show good manners. When we meet someone for the first time, it’s good manners to smile and say “hello” and give our name. When people come to our house, it’s good manners to greet them with a smile when they come, and to say something like “thank you for coming” when they go home. Sometimes, good manners can be the things we don’t do. When we don’t talk with a full mouth, or interrupt, or cut into a line, that is showing good manners. When we don’t try to get the attention of someone on the telephone, that’s good manners, too. People often feel “not quite right”. Bad weather, a stressful day, and sickness can make people irritable, or easily upset. If we use good manners, we make getting along more pleasant for everyone. Name ______________________________________________ Date _____________________ Comprehension Questions Read the questions. Circle the answer that best completes the sentence. 1. Good manners have been developed a. to give people more rules to learn. b. because people are mean. c. for no good reason. d. to make living together easier. 2. Good manners are a. only words. b. only actions c. both words and actions d. none of the above. 3. Good manners are what we a. say. b. do. c. don’t do. d. all of the above. 4. When people live together, their needs and wants are a. the same. b. different. c. unusual. d. strange. 5. Good manners are a. ways of treating people kindly. b. silly. c. fake. d. impossible. 6. Good manners were a. made up over time. b. made up last year. c. made up last week. d. made up last night. Application Questions Read the questions. Circle the answer that best completes the sentence. 1. If I meet someone new and I want to show good manners, I should a. smile and say “hello.” b. pretend I don’t see him. c. stare. d. say nothing. 2. If I bump into someone, I should a. say nothing. b. do nothing. c. say “I’m sorry.” d. glare at him. 3. If I’m sitting on a crowded bus or train and someone older than I am gets on, I should a. do nothing. b. get up and give that person my seat. c. stare at him. d. make fun of him. 4. If someone is talking on the telephone, and I interrupt, that is a. perfectly all right. b. good manners. c. not good manners. d. none of the above. 5. When we don’t talk with our mouths full of food, that is a. strange. b. good manners. c. silly. d. painful. 6. If someone is in his room with the door closed, I should a. go right in. b. go away. c. go around and look in the window. d. knock on the door. Name ______________________________________________ Date _____________________ Analysis Questions Read the questions. Circle the answer that best completes the sentence. 1. If I want to get to the head of the line so I’m not late, but I want to use good manners I could a. barge in front of the first person. b. wait my turn, but loudly complain that I’m going to be late. c. get mad and stomp away. d. say to the first person “Excuse me, could I please go first? I’m afraid I’m going to be late.” 2. If I’m running, and I bump into someone, good manners would be to a. say “It was all your fault.” b. say “I’m sorry.” c. say nothing. d. do nothing. 3. If I’m eating with people, and I burp, it would be good manners to a. leave and never come back. b. laugh and make fun of myself. c. say “excuse me.” d. do nothing. 4. My friend has been playing at my house all day. It’s time for him to go home. I should say a. “I’m glad you’re leaving.” b. “I’m glad you don’t live around here.” c. “I’m glad this day is finally over.” d. “I’m glad you came.” 5. Leaving the library, I let go of the door right in some people’s faces. Instead, I should have a. held the door for them. b. slowed down a little. c. been more careful. d. all of the above. 6. You accidentally knock over a neighbor’s vase. You should say a. “I’m sorry.” b. nothing. c. “It wasn’t my fault.” d. “The cat did it.” Name ______________________________________________ Date _____________________ Synthesis Questions Read the questions. Circle the answer that best completes the sentence. 1. Someone has just given you a birthday present that you don’t really like. You should say a. “I didn’t want this!” b. “I’m sorry!” c. “Thank you!” d. None of the above 2. You notice a friend looking very sad and tired. You realize this would be a good time to a. ignore your friend. b. hit your friend. c. use your good manners. d. none of the above. 3. An example of good manners is a. someone making fun of someone. b. someone laughing at someone. c. someone kicking someone. d. someone treating someone kindly. 4. You and your friends are having fun walking through the mall. Good manners means a. running into people. b. walking on the right-hand side. c. being loud and boisterous. d. stealing things. 5. Your mother is on the telephone, but you want to ask for $1.00. Good manners means a. you keep bugging her until she gives you the _______. b. you keep calling her name until she looks at you. c. you keep jumping up and down in front of her. d. you wait until she hangs up before you ask for the ______. 6. Someone has just given you a compliment. It’s good manners to say a. “Thank you.” b. something quiet, so that no one can hear you. c. “You must be kidding!” d. nothing Name ______________________________________________ Date _____________________ Evaluation Questions Read the questions. Circle the answer that best completes the sentence. 1. Someone who says “excuse me” when she burps is a. talking too much. b. being too noisy. c. being polite. d. being annoying. 2. Using good manners is a. a good idea. b. a bad idea. c. a silly idea. d. not important. 3. Using good manners makes a. everyone uneasy. b. getting along easier. c. getting along harder. d. everyone sad. 4. The person using good manners is the one who a. shoves people out of the way. b. talks with food in his mouth. c. stares at the floor and says nothing when meeting someone new. d. says “thank you for coming” when you leave. 5. The person not using good manners is the one who a. says “I’m sorry” when someone gets hurts. b. waits his turn in line. c. smiles and gives her name when meeting someone. d. keeps to the left on the sidewalk. 6. Treating people kindly is important a. only when we want them to like us. b. only when someone is looking. c. all the time d.. only when we want to get our own way. Name ______________________________________________ Date _____________________ MANNERS Answers Comprehension: 1 d 2 c 3 d 4 b 5 a 6 a Application: 1 a 2 c 3 b 4 c 5 b 6 d Analysis: 1 d 2 b 3 c 4 d 5 a 6 a Synthesis: 1 c 2 c 3 d 4 b 5 d 6 a Evaluation: 1 c 2 a 3 b 4 d 5 d 6 c Is your child well mannered? We've got tips and ideas for every situation from the dinner table to the classroom. What are good manners? What good manners look like at home Manners at school When you are out At the table On the phone What good manners look like at home Being helpful to others in your home. Saying 'please' and 'thank you'. Sharing and not grabbing and keeping good things to yourself. Respecting other people's property and their rooms. Helping the family by doing your chores. Cleaning up after yourself. Manners at school Saying good morning/afternoon if you are walking past an adult who you know. Asking if you can borrow something, not just taking. Returning things that you have borrowed. Waiting your turn before you speak. Saying 'excuse me,' rather than pushing past someone. Holding the door open for the person coming in, especially if he is carrying something. Respecting your own and other people's property, especially school property. Saying 'please' and 'thank you'. When you are out If you are out with other kids... Respect other people. Be polite to others. Don't use bad language in public - it is offensive to others. Let an older person have your seat on buses, trains and trams if there is nowhere for them to sit. Queue up quietly and don't push. Put your rubbish into bins, don't leave it for someone else to clean up. Have fun but don't be so loud that you attract the wrong kind of attention. Respect property. Don't make fun of anyone - everyone has feelings. Don't run in shopping centres or where there are other people. Spend time talking and listening to the people you are with - don't talk on your mobile plone when you are with other people. If you are out with your parents or other adults... Use your good manners so that you don't embarrass anyone. Introduce any friends you meet to the people you are with. Say 'please' and 'thank you'. Don't be a 'canna'. ("canna have this?" and "canna have that?") At the table Wait until everyone has been served before you eat. Use your knife to cut and your fork to put the food in your mouth. Chew food with your mouth closed. Ask for things to be passed to you, don't lean over the table. If you need to blow your nose, excuse yourself and go out of the room first. Don't grab everything you want first - help others to get their food and be prepared to share. Don't talk with your mouth full. It is not a good look! On the phone If you have to answer the phone, there are 3 important things to remember: Say your telephone number and who you are, eg. 'Jane speaking.' Never say, "Mum/Dad, or any other adult you live with, is out". Say "----- can't come to the phone right now - may I take a message?" You don't know whether the person on the other end of the phone is a would-be burglar, so you need to keep yourself safe. Don't give out any other information. The caller doesn't need to know if mum is in the bathroom or whatever! Always write down messages including phone numbers and organise with your family where the messages are to be put, eg. by the phone or on the fridge. The person who gets the message can choose whether or not to phone back, but it is good manners to let them know that they have a message anyway. When you are using a phone Negotiate with your family for length of time on the phone so that one person doesn't use the phone for hours, making it difficult for anyone else to use it. This is especially important if your internet access uses the same line. If you have a mobile, don't text or call someone when you're with a friend unless you first ask if your friend minds. If you get a call, say "excuse me" and move away from others to answer it, then make it a quick call. (How would you feel if you were just standing around while your friend was chatting away?) Check out our topic Mobile phones are great - aren't they. Basic Etiquette Dining Manners Phone Etiquette goodmanners.pdf Table Manners Telephone Manners Professional Manners Conversation and Social Skills Body Language Getting Along With People Types Hygiene Manners Courtesy Manners Cultural Norm Manners Everyday Manners Please and thank you Please We use please to make a request more polite: Can I borrow your pen, please? Please call our Reservations Department for more information. Word order We usually put please at the end of a request with could, can and would, but we can also put it at the beginning or in the middle. Please in the mid position makes the request stronger. Compare Could you say that again, please? Would you say that again, please? Please could you do that again? Please would you say that again? Could you please say that again? Can we please change the subject? This is the most common position for please in a request. Please in front position can make the request sound stronger, like an order. Please in mid position makes the request stronger. In this position please is often stressed. When talking to adults, children often use please in front position to adults when making a request or asking for permission. Compare [child to teacher] Please can I leave early today, Sir? [employee to boss] Can I leave early today, please? Not: Please can I leave early today? Please with imperatives We use please with the imperative form of a verb to express a polite request or order. We often find this in a classroom situation or in polite notices or written requests using the imperative. We usually put please in front position, at the beginning of the request, particularly in written requests and notices: [in a classroom] Please turn to page 10. (or Turn to page 10, please.) Please note that credit cards are not accepted. Please send your application, including details of your skills, qualifications and work achievements, to … In speaking, we often use please to make an order less direct: Pass the salt, please. We often use please to accept something politely, particularly with food and drink: A:What would you like to drink? B:Orange juice, please. A:I’m making a cup of tea. Would you like one? B:Ooh, yes, please. A:Do you want a lift to the station? B:Yes, please. That would be great. We use please to encourage or, more strongly, to beg someone to do something: A:I’ll give you a call if I hear anything more. B:Please do. Please believe me. But, please, don’t worry about it. We can use please on its own to express disbelief, surprise or annoyance: A:They took a taxi 100 metres down the road. B:Oh, please. I can’t believe that. Please. Just stop doing that. It’s really irritating. Please as a verb We use please as a verb: You can come and go as you please. (as you like) She was very hard to please. (to make happy) See also: ¦Requests ¦Politeness Thank you and thanks We use expressions with thank you and thanks to respond to something politely and to show we are grateful for something. Thanks is more informal than thank you. We often add other words to make the response stronger: Thanks. Thank you. Thank you very much (indeed). Thanks very much (indeed). Thanks a lot. Not: Thank you a lot. We use thank you and thanks to answer a polite question or to reply to a comment: A:How are you today? B:I’m fine, thank you. A:Your hair looks good. B:Thanks very much. We use thank you and thanks to accept or receive something and no, thank you or no, thanks to refuse something. Compare accepting refusing A:Would you like a biscuit? B:Yes, please. Thanks. A:Would you like a biscuit? B:No, thanks. Warning: Thank you on its own as a reply to an offer means that we accept: A:Would you like some more soup? B:Thank you. (This means yes.) We use thank you and thanks to say that we are grateful for something: Thank you for the flowers. [the phone is ringing; A offers to answer it] A:I’ll get the phone. B:Thanks. [from a radio phone-in programme] Frank, thank you very much indeed for joining us on the programme this morning. We use thank you even when we are receiving something that is ours: [in a shop, at the checkout] A:Here’s your change. B:Thank you. In informal speaking, we can use cheers or (very informally) ta to say thanks: A:There’s a coffee for you in the kitchen. B:Cheers. (or Ta very much!) (very informal) Thank you for + -ing form Thank you for or thanks for can be followed by the -ing form: Thank you for helping us. Thanks for sending a card. Thank you as a noun We can use thank you as a noun, often with big: A big thank you to all those who helped with the sale. Thank as a verb We can use thank as a verb, always with an object and often with for + noun and for + -ing: I thank you for your advice. (quite formal) We would like to thank everyone for their generosity. I’d like to thank you for coming here tonight. Thank God We say thank God, not thanks God, when we are pleased that something has happened which we feared would not happen, or vice versa: Thank God you’re home! I was so worried that you’d had an accident. Not: Thanks God you’re home. Replying to thanks We reply to thanks with expressions such as you’re welcome (more formal), not at all, no problem. We don’t use please as an answer to thank you: A:Thanks for the flowers. You shouldn’t have. B:You’re welcome. Not: Please. or Nothing. A:Thank you for fixing the internet connection. B:No problem. Thanks to We often use thanks to to mean ‘because of’. It is more common in writing than speaking: |